Relationship Dynamics
1) Do you sincerely trust and respect your partner? Y___ N___
2) Does your partner sincerely trust and respect you? Y___ N___
3) Do you and your partner feel comfortable talking openly and honestly about your feelings and thoughts? Y___ N___
Expectations
1) Have you and your partner talked about your expectations for your first time? Y___ N___
2) Have you and your partner talked about what you're each hoping for during sex (e.g., romance, getting it over with, etc.)? Y___ N___
3) Have you and your partner talked about what you're each hoping for after sex (e.g., an exclusive relationship, regular sex, etc.)? Y___ N___
4) Have you and your partner talked about what would happen if one or both of you wanted to stop while having sex? Y___ N___
NOTE: Whether you're having sex for the first time ever or for the first time with your current partner, you both may have the same or different expectations. It's important to talk about things to reduce any disappointment or regret.
Feelings About Sex
1) Have both you and your partner expressed a common interest in having sex? Y___ N___
2) Do you both feel ready and prepared to have sex? Y___ N___
3) Do you or your partner feel pressured to have sex? Y___ N___
4) Have you talked about how sex will affect your relationship, positively and potentially negatively? Y___ N___
5) Have you talked about how personal values may conflict with having sex? Y___ N___
If YES, were you both understanding towards those concerns? Y___ N___
Risks
1) Have you agreed upon a method of protection for:
Sexually Transmitted Infections? Y___ N___
Pregnancy? Y___ N___
2) Are you both aware of how to properly use the protection methods you've chosen? Y___ N___
3) Have you discussed how you will get and pay for the birth control and STI protection methods you've chosen? Y___ N___
4) Have you talked about what would happen if you got pregnant? Y___ N___
5) Have you talked about what would happen if someone got an STI? Y___ N___
6) Have you talked about your sexual history (i.e., previous sexual partners)? Y___ N___
7) Have you talked about whether either of you have been tested for an STI? Y___ N___
8) Have you and your partner been honest about whether you've had or current have an STI? Y___ N___
